Unrequited love (phrase): A love that can’t be acted upon or is not openly reciprocated It was our 10 year wedding anniversary last week and James booked us a trip to the Netherlands to cycle the tulip fields, seeing as …
Heavy
Aware (adjective): Having or showing realisation, perception, or knowledge Baby Loss Awareness Week (9th – 15 October) rolls around again, it starts tomorrow. And unlike last year, it’s not something I’m planning to make a push for, because it feels …
Permanent
Normal (adjective): Ordinary or usual; as would be expected Hi team, it’s been a while. Probably my longest stint without blogging. It’s because I’ve been Sarah Michelle Gellar-ing (I just re-read that blog from February and it’s spot on), I …
Four Trying Years
Quadrennium (noun): A specified period of four years This new month marks four years of us trying for a baby. Four trying years. Trying for years. F-O-U-R Y-E-A-R-S 80% of our first TTC lustrum 48 months 208 weeks 1461 days …
Imposter Syndrome
Fraud (noun): A person who deceives others, typically by unjustifiably claiming or being credited with accomplishments or qualities I’m sure I’ve mentioned previously, that it took me forever to seek out the baby loss community; other like-minded women, who’ve been …
Five Years
Exponential (of an increase): becoming more and more rapid We, in the baby loss community, are skilled at coming up with ways to torture ourselves. A friend, for example, calculated the number of weeks of her life that she’s been …
Grow Through, What You Go Through
Fight the good fight (idiom): To try very hard to do what is right After the loss of a pregnancy, it takes a while to regain your strength and to resume the types of things you used to do. Be …
The Pregnancy Thief
Poetaster (noun): A person who writes inferior poetry Ignorance was the first to flee Soon all else was stripped from me Doctor says: It’s just bad luck Ah, so you don’t give a f*ck? No big deal It happens a …
Sarah Michelle Gellar-ing
One day at a time (idiom): To deal with each day as they come, instead of worrying about the future When I launched this website in June of last year, I had no idea how frequently I would blog. I had …
The Year of the Ox
Gung hay fat choy (Cantonese): How Cantonese speakers wish you a happy new year, the literal translation: wishing you great happiness and prosperity “James, it’s the year of the Ox!” He didn’t reply, but in his defence, what are you …